Before the “technology era” started, parents had moments when they didn’t give their children attention because they were reading a newspaper. The distraction now comes from the smartphones and other devices like tablets and laptops.
A new study showed that everybody feels connected with their smartphones more than they should be. Parents that volunteered for the study recognized that their smartphones command their lives more than their children. This is why they interact less and less with their children.
This study also showed that a parent can’t be alert for both the child and the smartphone. The problem comes when they need to focus on both things. For instance, when they are confronted with email urgent from work and their children need attention too they feel an internal conflict.
Both mothers and fathers complained about their smartphones because they receive too much information, they are emotionally stressed and they are disrupted by their smartphones and taken away from their family
Another problem found by this study is that parents tend to respond badly to their children when they are using the phone or tablet. They are busy and when the child wants to play or to show them something they can’t be responsive at the same time. This is why kids tend to yell to get more attention and parents tend to do the same because they are too busy to be disrupted. They also tend to snap and be furious although it is not the kid’s fault.
After that, they have a sense of guilt and try to fix the situation. This is very tough because children can’t understand why the phone is more important at that moment and a gap is created between the parent and its kid. This gap, sometimes, can affect the whole relationship.
In order to conduct this study, the researchers took interviews from parents that had a diverse socioeconomic background. They tried to make the study diverse to demonstrate that this problem is a general one and it does not affect just a category of people.
This study was made in order to make the parents aware of the consequences. To show them that smartphones and gadgets are not what matters.
Previous studies showed that children need to connect with their parents, to have discussions in order to develop normally.
Do you think that smartphones affect your family life?
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